Being caring allows you to have empathy for others and to
live a life based on affection, love, and compassion for the people around you.
It can be tempting to fall into a life of selfishness and to focus only on your
own goals and desires, but your days will be far more rewarding if you think
about what the people in your life are thinking and feeling. Being caring means
providing a listening ear, noticing when someone needs help, and helping your
community without asking for a reward.
Here’s a few suggestions that may help you do just that.
Don’t
talk just Act:
You know that old common wisdom, “Actions speak louder than
words While you can apologize for not doing something until you’re blue in the
face, you’ll gain so much more appreciation by another in your life by simply
doing it in the first place. Yes, it means you have to work harder to keep on
top of things to begin with, even with simple things like taking out the trash
or running that errand you said you would. But the reward is that your loved
one will know you care because you just did it without being asked or reminded
to do so.
Support
others:
- Thank a friend for being there when times were tough.Example by the time you were close to me for moral support
- Show someone you appreciate them for being a good friend.
- Describe a time a small act made a big difference. Example you brought me soup when I was sick.
- Give someone a compliment.
- Tell someone why their talent/skills inspire you.
- Show your best friend why they are the BEST.
- Support her/his actions. Put yourself into the other person shoes. Help that person, if you can. Say something nice, at least. Or just do things that will ease or support her/his activities
Care
the feelings of others:
About the feelings of others you should make sure that you
do not criticize, advice, or manipulate others but listen to them with empathy
and non-judgmental way. To care about the feelings of others it is not enough
for just respect their feelings by asking questions life "How will this
person feel if you do this or say this?". You need to show empathy and
understanding while dealing with people to care for their feelings because they
are as valid as your own.
People who are self-absorbed or who only care about
themselves tend not to care when other people around them are upset, even if
they caused it. Make sure this isn't you.
Even if you're not the one causing the hurt feelings, be
aware of how others around you are reacting to a given comment or a piece of
news. If you're in a meeting and notice that many people are visibly upset when
your boss explains the objectives for a new project, you may want to talk to
your boss about it.
Family
Appreciation:
Send a
Care Card to on their special events
- A sibling
- A cousin
- A parent
- Aunts and uncles
- Grandparents
- Close family friends
Avoid arguing
and picking Your Battles:
Arguments are a constant source of relationship strife, even
amongst family members or friends. You may say, “How can I just stop arguing?”
Easy, because engaging in a conversation with another person is a choice we
make (whether we always do so consciously or not). Make a conscious effort to
note when you’re entering into an argument, and then just stop. Remember, not
every argument is worth engaging in — so don’t feel like you have to get into
an argument just because someone else is asking for one. “Sorry, I can’t talk
about this right now, let’s talk more about this later…” or “You’re right, I’m
wrong, I’m sorry” will put a sudden halt to the argument. Which leads us to…
Think
over how your action affects other people:
We are all divine souls, only our ego separates us. Every single action make has a consequence, like a ripple in a
pond that may directly or indirectly hurt or heal someone.
ask yourself how this person
would react to whatever it is you did. If the answer is "not well,"
then you should think about changing your actions to something that would
better suit people.Of course, this doesn't mean that people always have to like
or agree with everything you do. Sometimes, you have to do what you believe in
without trying to pander to others. But if your behavior is selfish, rude, or
unpleasant, then you have to start thinking about making a change.
Give Advice Only When it’s Needed:
People have their own minds,
their own expectations, their own lives. Give advice only when it’s needed,
otherwise you will obtain the opposite effect. Your genuine intention to help
will be in fact perceived as a pressure. Sometimes, the best thing you can do
for somebody is to let him hit his own wall.
Apologize often Even you are not wrong:
If you’re experiencing an
ongoing conflict or any kind of tension with a co-worker or employee, you
should try apologizing, even if you don’t think you’re wrong. It can work
wonders, and even give you the upper hand. Too
often we’re afraid to apologize because we think it puts us in an inferior
position but, in reality, this isn’t actually true
You have only to look to look
to your home life for examples. Anyone who is in a successful, long term
relationship has apologized when they weren’t really sorry and didn’t think
they were wrong, to keep the peace.
Mark Goulston, a business psychiatrist recommends the following five
steps to an apology,
1. Speak in person, in
private, so there’s no email trail.
2. Say, “Would you agree that we have come to different conclusions on a number
of situations?”
3. Say, “If that’s so, I owe you an apology because I have never taken the time or made the effort to understand how you came to came to the conclusions you have.”
4. Say, “And furthermore I owe you another apology for something that I am not proud of. And that is that I never even wanted to understand your point of view, because I was so focused on pushing through my agenda. That was wrong and I am sorry.” He adds, “Owning up to and taking responsibility for negative thoughts and feelings they have towards you is further disarming.”
5. Say, “And if you are willing to give me another chance, I would like to fix that starting now.”
3. Say, “If that’s so, I owe you an apology because I have never taken the time or made the effort to understand how you came to came to the conclusions you have.”
4. Say, “And furthermore I owe you another apology for something that I am not proud of. And that is that I never even wanted to understand your point of view, because I was so focused on pushing through my agenda. That was wrong and I am sorry.” He adds, “Owning up to and taking responsibility for negative thoughts and feelings they have towards you is further disarming.”
5. Say, “And if you are willing to give me another chance, I would like to fix that starting now.”
Exchange same thing that you get from other:
If you received a nice word, give it back. If you received a gift,
give one back. If somebody smiled at you, return the smile. If you don’t
reciprocate, you break a subtle channel of energies that are building our day
to day experience. Soon, you’ll be disconnected. Not able to receive or to give
care anymore.
Show Random
Acts of kindness:
- Do something nice for someone and add a nice message
- Leave an extra big tip for the food server and tell them why their service is outstanding.
- Visit a senior center and ask to hear an elderly person’s life story. Leave a message about why their life made a difference.
- Mow a neighbor’s lawn, rake their leaves, shovel a sidewalk and leave an anonymous Care Card.
- Send a Care Card to an elderly person who has been an influence in your life.
- Write a letter to a teacher who influenced your life.
- Reach out to someone who has dedicated their life to your favorite cause. Tell them why it matters. (Example: the work you do ensures a healthy future for our planet earth.)
- When buying coffee, pay for the person behind you. Hand them a Care Card and remind them why they matter.
- Leave Care Cards at a blood donation center.
- Tell someone what you notice about them. (Example:your confidence is dazzling!)
- Reach out to a homeless person.
- Give a compliment to a stranger.
- Tell someone that you admire them.
Always be
grateful to others:
As often as you can. There
is no imaginable context in which you cannot say “thank you” when somebody does
something for you. Or at least I can’t imagine such a context. Saying “thank
you” is not only the simplest form of respect, but also the easiest way to show
that you’re just caring.
Ignore feeling of selfishness:
Though it's hard to decide to stop being completely selfish one
day, anyone can work on being less selfish in his or her daily interactions and
everyday life. If you want to be less selfish, then you have to spend more time
thinking about how others are feeling instead of always worrying about me, me,
me. The next time you have an interaction with someone, focus on how the person
is feeling and what he's been up to instead of talking about yourself or only
thinking about your own needs. The more aware you are about not being selfish,
the easier it will be to truly care for others.
Remember that there's a difference between being selfish and in
taking good care of yourself and not neglecting your own needs for the sake of
what others want.
Treat others like you want to be treated:
This may sound very obvious, but you'd be surprised by how few people
actually live by this law. If you want to be more caring, then you have to be
kind and thoughtful toward others, and think of how you would feel if you were
in their shoes. You may not care much when you make a rude comment to your
waiter because you're cranky, but think about how the comment would make him
feel. You may not care about being rude to your little brother, but you should
think about how your words really affect him. Making a habit of putting
yourself in someone else's shoes can make a big difference in how you see the
world.
You may not be down on your luck, but someone
else may be. Try to imagine what that's like before you're brusque or uncaring
to someone who is less fortunate than you
Increase your Trust Level:
If you can. Give to the other person all the freedom she/he’s asking for.
Even if that freedom crosses the boundaries you’d be willing to accept. That’s
the only way to find out if you’re in a healthy relationship. If you don’t have
reasons to trust the other, then don’t. In this case, you will show that you
care about yourself.
Help people in need:
Helping people in need is a major aspect of being caring. You can't be a
caring person if you're only out to help yourself. Helping other people means
helping both the friends and family members who need help in their lives, and
also helping out the less fortunate people in your community, or even people
you may not know that well who need assistance. Be on the lookout for people
who need help and find a productive way to get involved if you want to be more
caring.
Your friends and family members may not always admit it when they need
your help. However, it's up to you to notice when they are just being polite
and really need some extra help, whether they want you to do some more chores
or to run some errands.
Get involved in a soup kitchen, literacy center, local library, teen help
program, or another program in your area that allows you to make other people's
lives more full.
Caring people spend time doing
favors for people and helping them out when they need it. This doesn't mean you
have to become someone's errand boy, but it does mean that you should make an
effort to help people out, whether you're picking up coffee for your boyfriend,
giving your little brother a ride to school, or helping your best friend pick
out the flowers for her wedding. While there should be a balance and the person
should do favors for you also if he or she is capable of it, you should make a
habit of doing favors for those you care about.
Though you don't have to spread yourself too thin, sometimes the greatest
joy can come from doing a favor for someone you don't know that well. If you
shovel your neighbor's driveway while you're shoveling yours after a snowstorm,
the effort will be much appreciated.Be on the lookout. People won't always ask you if they need a favor.
Sometimes, you should just be able to tell when they really need your help but
don't want to impose.
Share with other whatever you have:
Sharing really is caring. If you want to be a more caring person, then
you should be willing to share your things. This means sharing things you actually
care about, like clothes you like, or half of your favorite sandwich, not
sharing something that means nothing to you, like a book you didn't like much
anyway. Be on the lookout for opportunities to share things, whether it's a
material object or a piece of advice. People who are caring are unselfish, and
sharing is a key trait of a person who is selfless.[4]
Sharing doesn't only mean material goods. You can also share knowledge.
Take the time to talk to a high school student about the college admissions
process if you're in college. Talk to someone starting out in your career field
about your experiences. Help a younger person on your tennis team master her
forehand. Look for opportunities to improve a person's life by sharing what you
know
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